Being able to handle and accept rejection is not always easy, but it is a part of life. However, rejection is not necessarily indicative of our character and who we are. Some of us take rejection personal, it’s not always personal. Many of us have suppressed childhood trauma. Some of that trauma can include rejection, fear, neglect, and abandonment. Regardless it is our responsibility to work through those triggers and feelings. The actions of others should not sway our emotions and responses. A Philosopher Epictetus wrote, “He who controls your emotions is your master.”

I am reminded that we are all connected, cause and effect is real. As people we have to accept if someone does not choose to be a part of our lives or engage with us; rather it be friendship or romantic relationships. At any point in time with any interaction people can pull the plug so to speak or choose to disengage. Hopefully, the person is compassionate and considerate enough to tell you directly or maybe explain. But and this is huge no one is obligated to explain.  I think this is the part that many dread but is a real possibility for anyone when being vulnerable in any relationship. Yes, there are narcissistic people, people with low emotional intelligence, and people who are emotionally immature. However, we have to accept it even if it hurts. We do ourselves a disservice asking the question, “why?”. Sometimes there is room to express or explain and sometimes it is not warranted. Learn to read the room. We don’t have to regurgitate on the past if we choose not to divulge. We owe it to ourselves to heal and move on.

This current retrograde and previous full moon in Scorpio has been one of reflection. We are able to see who chose to grow and who has managed to stay the same. We are able to see our responses to past triggers. We are tested to determine the depths of our capacity and how much we can take. We are reminded of the decisions we made and have absolutely no regrets. We are allowed to press on.